 
FRENCHMAID/MILLIONAIRE
Monday, June 29, 2009
Frenchmaid Aggressive: You are very sexy and have a seductive nature. You are looking to marry a millionaire and assume the best way to meet one is to work for one as a frenchmaid.
Millionaire Passive: You are a rich, powerful, workaholic bachelor. You've never had much of a social life. You can run huge corporateions but when it comes to women in a social setting, you're shy.
Scenario: After a few days on the job, she decides to seduce her boss. When he comes home he immediately goes to his study to work. She walks in and asks if he'd like a drink. Never looking up from the papers on the desk, he says "yes". Returning with his drink, she asks him if he'd mind if she did a little dusting while he worked. "No, I don't mind," he replies. She begins exaggerating her phisical actions and making some noise while moving things. He can't help but notice her actions and becomes excited. Realizing her seduction is working, she decides to become more forward. She asks him if she can make him more comfortable by removing his jacket and tie. He agrees and sits back in his chair as she begins gently massaging his neck. Still trying to concentrate on his work, he becomes aroused and asks her to stop. "Don't you like it?" she asks. "Yes," he says, "but I can't concentrate." She bends down to kiss him and he shyly pulls away. "Don't worry, I'll take good care of you," she says, as she continues to seduce him.
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GIGOLO/CLIENT
Monday, June 29, 2009
Gigolo Aggressive: You are classy, well dressed and well mannered. You enjoy satisfying women and always cater to their sexual needs. Most of your clients are shy at first, but you always put them at ease.
Client Passive: You are a young woman married to an older man. Although he can no longer satisfy you sexually, you still love him. He convinces you to hire a professional to fulfill your sexual desires. You call a number from the newspaper and arrange to meet him at a hotel.
Scenario: She checks in and informs the front desk that she will be expecting a visitor. Nervous with anticipation, she hears a knock at the door and opens it. Standing there is a handsome well dressed man. With a smile, he says, "Hello." She smiles back and invites him in. She offers him a drink. Politely, he says, "Please site, I'll get the drinks." The sit and she immediately begins to talk about business. "Relax," he says, noticing that sh's nervous. "There's plenty of time for that later." As they finish their drinks, he asks, "Why did you call me?" She replies, "my husband is very old and can't satisfy me sexually, he convinced me to call a professional."
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GYNECOLOGIST/PATIENT
Monday, June 29, 2009
Gynecologist Aggressive: You have been a doctor for ten years and came across a patient who becomes very aroused when you examine her. You're attracted to her and would rather caress and fondle her body than examine it.
Patient Passive: You are attracted to your doctor and become very aroused when he examines you. You find it very difficult to hold back your emotions. You would like to get intimate during your next exam and you hope he makes the first move.
Scenario He arrives at his office and notices she's waiting by the door. "Sorry the nurse is late," he says, "Please come in." She willingly follows. He escorts her to the examination room, asks her to undress and provides her with a sheet to cover herself. He says, "I'll be right back," and leaves the room. He returns a few minutes later and she is now lying down on the table. "How have you been?" he asks. "Fine," she replies. He pulls down the sheet and begins by examining her breasts. She becomes aroused by his touch immediately, and lets out a soft, unconscious moan. Hear her reaction, he too becomes aroused. Her moans become louder and more uncontrollable as the exam progresses.
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LANDLORD/TENANT
Monday, June 29, 2009
Landlord Aggressive: You own a building in a poor section of town. One of your tenants, an attractive single woman, is often late on her rent. In the past, you've offered to let her slide in exchange for sexual favors, bus she's always come up with the cash instead. This time she's over two months late and you're going to give her an ultimatum: pay up, put out, or else.
Tenant Passive: Holding down two jobs while trying to go to night school is not easy, but the last few months have been especially tough. Your landlord has made subtle offers to exchange sex for your rent and a few times it's seemed like a pretty good idea. Besides, he's not a bad looking guy and is kind of charming in a sleazy way.
Scenario: He arrives and she recognizes his car immediately. It can only mean one thing: rent time. She decides to invite him in and explain her situation, hoping he will be patient and understanding until she can pay. She opens the door for him with a big smile. "I have to talk to you," she says as she leads him inside. "Would you like a cup of coffee?" Surprised that she even invited him in, he becomes excited at the idea that maybe she's warmed up to his offer. "You know it's been really hard for me," she begins as she makes coffee. He looks around and notices how dingy the little appartment is. "I understand," he says, watching her move around the tiny kitchen area, "but I can't afford to run a charity. I've let you off the hook more then most landlords would, but only because you turn me on." He reaches out and pinches her ass. She's shocked and freezes - he's never been this bold. "So if I have sex with you, you'ff forget about the rent?" she asks him, point blank. She faces him, her hands on her hips. Her eyes are full of rage, but he detects something deeper, maybe even interest? Her expression softens and she begins to smile. He rises from his chair and moves toward her, she doesn't resis his touch.
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LIBRARIAN/BOOKWORM
Monday, June 29, 2009
Librarian Aggressive: You are an intelligent bookworm and enjoy your job at the library. At work, you conceal your wild side by dressing conservatively but you wear lingerie underneath to feel sexy.
Bookwork Passive: You are rugged and soft-spoken. You like aggressive women who dress conservatively. You feel this type of woman is rare so you spend all of your free time reading.
Scenerio: She's at work at the library when she notices "her type of man" searching for a book. After watching him for a few minutes, she walks over and asks, "May I help you?" He turns and notices a conservatively dressed, yet sexy librarian. "Yes," he replies, "I'm looking for this book." She's turned on by his soft-spoken voice. She takes the slip of paper from his hand "We don't carry this book, it's very rare. I own a copy myself, it took me to years to find it". Surprised, he asks, "You have this book?" "Yes", she replies, knowing she can lure him to her home.
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OLDER MAN/YOUNGER WOMAN
Monday, June 29, 2009
OIder Man Aggressive: You are divorced with no children. You own your own business and have an office in your home. You occasionally attend conventions for the day. You hire your neighbor's daughter to answer the phones while you are gone.
Younger Woman Passive: You are single and live at home with your parents. You work part time for a computer software company. You enjoy working for your neighbor, who you have a secret crush on.
Scenario: He calls and tells her that he has to leave town right away and asks if she can come over. "No problem" she says, "I'll be right there." When she arrives, he gives her the key to the house and tells her he'll be home at 10:00 pm. Once his car is out of sight, she runs up to his bedroom, jumps on his bed and smells his cologne on his pillos. She likes to act as if she's his mistress while he's out of town. She fantasizes about him picking her up and carrying her to his bed where they'll have wile, passionate sex. He arrives home three hours early and calls her name but there's no answer. As he enters his bedroom he finds her admiring herself in front of the mirror. Aroused by how sexy she looks in her lace teddy and high heels, he watches her for a moment before saying, "Hi, I'm home."
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EROTIC WRITER
Monday, June 29, 2009
Erotic Writer: You are an erotic writer and have many many friends of the opposite sex yet you cannot find someone who understands you. Each of them feels rather daunted by you sexually because they think you think too much. Its been a long time since you have fucked or made love... and you now have a partner who is so open and ready for you... You find though that you cannot control your mouth...you talk erotica the entire time you are with him/her and even during lovemaking... this turns on your partner greatly!!
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TEACHER
Monday, June 29, 2009
You are the teacher of a class of college students and you are also single. It makes it hard to sit in the class all day without thinking about their raw passion and what it would feel like to be able to have a few moments of that passion. Without warning class ends and you are still daydreaming as the students all pile on past and you don't even notice that there is a student sitting on your desk and they have handed you a note... The note reads....I find you so incredibly beautiful, sexy and cannot concentrate on my work when in your class.....what happens next?
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PICKUP BAR
Monday, June 29, 2009
You and your partner decide on a predetermined bar to meet at, however you must arrive separately and do not socialize or even pretend to know each other, at least not right away. The idea is to pick each other up, but don't make it too easy. If you and your partner feel confident enough with the relationship, try flirting with the other men/women in the bar to stir the emotional juices a little. Then as the evening progresses make your move to approach your partner to strike up a conversation. Again don't make it to easy and you must approach it as if you're both meeting each other for the first time and let nature take it's course. Chat, dance and drink together and try to establish a dialogue that will lead towards going home with each other to a night of hot and steamy one nighter with your partner.
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BAD BAD BOY
Monday, June 29, 2009
You have been very bad. Again you broke one of the rules in your relationship. You have a habit of telling your love when you see a 'beautiful creature of the opposite sex'. There was a deal struck that when that happens you have to endure the playful punishment of your lover. You were being awful bad these days...but then the punishment was pretty sweet! Usually it includes being tied to a chair or the bed and your lover teasing you with things like feathers, tickling and being licked till you cum!
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CARWASH TITTIES
Monday, June 29, 2009
Time to wash the car (you can really do this or imagine) and you are surprised when your lover shows up to help wearing a very skimpy outfit. (woman a thin white shirt no bra, men no shirt but silky shorts like jogging shorts that show exactly what your thinking) You both have a fun soapy time cleaning the car and teasing each other then when you are both ready you come inside (or right there by the car if you are in a secluded enough place) and you rip off what clothes are left to continue the fun....
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NURSING AN ORGASM
Monday, June 29, 2009
One of you is in the hospital for knee surgery and is recupperating well. The other is your nurse. Your sexy and horny nurse. The nurse must care for their patient in all ways that are needed. The nurse wants to make love to this beautiful person, believing that sex and orgasm cures all ailments. The nurse has to have the patients permission, and then they will give them the ultimate 'care giving' but they cannot just come right out and ask...'Can we have sex?'
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BODY WRAP
Monday, June 29, 2009
Get out the Christmas wrap, Plastic Wrap or if you are adventuresome, some soft rope. Wrap or tie up your lover and then talk very dirty to them. Everything must be consensual so talk over how it will go before.
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EROTIC POETRY
Monday, June 29, 2009
You must sit down and write an erotic poem or story in 15 minutes the idea being to use every raunchy and erotic word you can to describe your lust for your partner...You know when they read it, its going to make them so horny for you that you will reap the benefits.
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WET AND MESSY
Monday, June 29, 2009
Go raid the kitchen!! Find something that is wet, messy, warm or cold, something that will be tasty eaten off your belly by your lover... Get a towel to put under you and have your lover sit and watch as you cover sexy parts of you with this food...taste it even making those ohhhhh ohhhhh ohhhh sounds... Then you give permission for your hungry horny lover to come eat you!!
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COLLEGE FLIRTING
Monday, June 29, 2009
You are the teacher of a class of college students and you are also single. It makes it hard to sit in the class all day without thinking about their raw passion and what it would feel like to be able to have a few moments of that passion. Without warning class ends and you are still daydreaming as the students all pile on past and you don't even notice that there is a student sitting on your desk and they have handed you a note... The note reads....I find you so incredibly beautiful, sexy and cannot concentrate on my work when in your class.....what happens next?
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CONFESSIONS MALE
Monday, June 29, 2009
Copy these confessions out. If you like, you can put them individually into a hat and pull them random or you can ask them of your partner. Look for the female confessions to ask your female lover.
The first time I heard about sex, I thought it was...
My first experience with self stimulation was...
The farthest I have ever gone in a parked car was...
The thought of watching women exercise in the nude makes me...
When a woman tells me a dirty joke, it usually makes me...
The first time I had an orgasm, I thought I was....
The grossest person I ever shared a bed with was...
The rottenest thing I ever did to escape having to make love was...
The excuse I most often hear for not making love is...
My favorite method of picking up women is...
The most I have ever "come on" with a buddy's mate was...
I believe I am dressed the hunkiest when I am wearing...
If I ever surprised my woman in the act of self-stimulation, I would probably...
If I were to describe female sexual equipment in one word it would have to be...
The thought of making love to two women at the same time really makes me...
If I were to estimate how often I fantasize about making love to a strange woman, it would be once every...
If my friends all decided to skinny dip, I would probably...
If my mate and I were sharing a hotel room with another couple who started to make love, I would probably...
If, on a first date the subject of birth control came up, I would...
While on a Caribbean cruise, if I discovered that the rest of the passengers were nudists, I would probably....
If my brother announced his homosexuality, I would probably...
If my sister announced her homosexuality, I would probably...
If I saw my best friend moonlightling as a male stripper, I would probably...
The most disgusting place I have ever made love was...
If I opened a package addressed to my wife and it contained sex toys, I would probably...
If a girl much younger than myself asked me to teach her everything I know about sex, I would probably...
When it comes to making love on a waterbed, my experience has been....
If my lover wanted to video tape our love-making, I would probably...
When it comes to making noise during sex, I consider myself...
The one thing about sex that I wish I knew when I was younger is...
I would consider going to a nudist colony if I could...
If I discovered my mate in bed with a member of the same sex I would probably...
The last person in the world I would make love to is...
My favourite sexual position is...
If I have a sexual fetish, it would have to be...
When it comes to making love on the first date, it has always been my policy to...
My most memorable experience with an obscene phone call was...
The time I thought I need a sex therapist was...
The relative I would most like to have sex with, if we were not related, would be...
The thought of making love to a virgin makes me...
The sexual technique that I am weakest at is...
The sexual technique that I am best at is...
The part of my body that responds most to fondling is...
The part I most like to fondle is...
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CONFESSIONS FEMALE
Monday, June 29, 2009
Copy these confessions out. If you like, you can put them individually into a hat and pull them random or you can ask them of your partner. Look for the male confessions to ask your male lover.
The first time I heard about sex, I thought it was...
My first experience with self stimulation was...
The fartheset I have ever gone in a parked car was...
The first method of contraception I ever used was...
The thought of watching men in the nude leaves me feeling...
When a man tells me a dirty joke, it usually makes me...
The first time I had an orgasm, I thought I was...
The grossest person I have ever shared a bed with was...
The rottenest thingn I ever did to escape having to make love was...
The excuse I most often hear for not making love is...
My favourite method of flirting is...
The most I have ever "come on" with a girlfriend's man was...
I believe I am dressed the sexiest when I am wearning...
If I ever surprised my man in the act of self-stimulation, I woudl probably...
If I were to describe male sexual equipment in one word, it would have to be...
The thought of making love to two men at the same time really makes me...
If I were to estimate how often I fantasize about making love to a strange man, it woudl be once every...
If my friends all decided to skinny dip, I would probably...
If my mate and I were sharing a hotel room with another couple who started to make love, I woudl probably...
If on a first date the subject of birth control came up, I would...
While making love to my mate, I sometimes fantasize about...
If a stripper gave me the opportunity to remove his/her last piece of clothing I would...
If I h ad to wear a costume to make love, I woudl dress as...
If my lover agreed to wear a costume of my choice before making love, I would choose...
The whildest sexual aid I have ever used was...
The most pleasure I have ever had with a foreign object was...
The last sexual request I refused was...
The last sexual request someone refused me was...
The thought of making love during pregnancy makes me...
The thought of making love during "that time of the month" leaves me...
My favourite fantasy involving a hot tub is...
My favorite fantasy involving a romantic location is...
My favorite fantasy involving a famous man is...
My favorite fantasy involving a man I know is...
My favorite fantasy involving a woman I know is...
The last time a man tried to pick me up was...
The last time I suspected someone of the same sex was flirting with me was...
My favorite fantasy involving sex in a public place is...
The most public place I ever made love was...
I think men are sexiest when they are wearing...
When I finally lost my virginity, I was...
I think the maximum number of men I am physically capable of making love to in a single day is...
I really like having a tongue stuck in my...
I really hate having a tongue stuck in my...
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The Art of the Tease
Monday, June 29, 2009
Remember that another word for foreplay is tease. Teasing is a very nice way to start off adult play. When your partner is really horny, tempt yet tease him/her. Be coy about being horny too. I am not talking about ignoring them, on the contrary, you want to be sure that they are interested and yet quickly realize you will be taking it slow.
Think of this as two steps forward and one back. Slow down your usual routine. If you are massaging stay away from the sexual eroginous zones. Lightly brush past them as if by accident. A naked man with an erection that is not being touched purposefully and then is lightly stroked will tell you how hot that is.
The tease can be an all night adventure. The next time you have an evening out planned (especially those boring "have to go" evenings) set the stage ahead by saying that you are so horny and hope that you end up in bed with a sexy lady/man *wink *wink (be sure they realize you mean them). Talk about how you are going to flirt all night long. Mention how you will look across the room and catch your lovers eye and they will know what is on your mind. Leave it at that till you are at your party then follow thru. Watch what happens as the night progresses. The suspense will be so hot. You will find yourself rushing to the car and making out in the first secluded spot available!
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Importance of Foreplay
Monday, June 29, 2009
Okay this post is for the Guys. Are you a zero to hard as rock kind of guy who just wants to get off already? Do you know why its important to engage in foreplay and warm up your female partner? Her body needs to be ready for intercourse.
A woman is not in a state of sexual readyness all the time. The vagina has erectile tissue (like the penis) which needs to fill with blood to accommodate penetration. Otherwise penetration will be difficult and uncomfortable. Without foreplay her vagina won't have secreted any natural lubricant either, making penetration difficult, painful and possibly causing small tears in the vaginal tissue.
She needs to be emotionally ready too. Remember that she also needs to decide that its time for sex. Nothing is sexier then a woman that wants sex. The man that can invoke that response in a woman knows how to entice and tame the tiger! That is a man that can smile all day long. Your job is to get her to the point of wanting pleasure then sit back and enjoy her passion!
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Verbal Foreplay
Monday, June 29, 2009
Talking is a very important aspect of foreplay. If the purpose of foreplay is to get both lovers ready, more excited, ramped up for orgasm, then talking sexy is one of the best ways. If you and your lover do not talk sexy to each other you don't know what you are missing.
A whisper in a naughty place can be very exciting. The party with friends night can be enhanced by whispering sweet and sexy things to your lover. Say something like "you are sexier then any man/woman here tonight" and watch your lovers response.
During sex talk dirty. This can be the basis of a steamy sexual encounter especially if your lover is not expecting it. Just start to talk like a slut or gigalo. Talk about your lover as if they are the only sexual being worthy of your time and especially talk about how they make you feel.
If you are on the recieving end of a massage, softly tell your lover how it is relaxing you, exciting you, what to do more of.
Use verbal foreplay to your advantage. When you say something to your lover during foreplay/sex watch the reaction. You might be surprised how much this will add to the passion!
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Passionate Kiss
Monday, June 29, 2009
Everyone remembers a passionate kiss... be it the first kiss you ever had, the one that met you at the airport after a brief absence from each other or the one that caught you by surprise in a special way.
Kissing remains one of lifes biggest pleasures. Two sets of lips touching seem so very intimate. Use kissing to your advantage. Remember those times where you just come so close to each other that its obvious that both of you want sex? at that moment ask your lover to KISS YOU. Whisper it passionately and wait for them to kiss you. This moment will be filled with passion!
Never underestimate the power of the kiss. A deep, passionate kiss can work wonders for blood flow. And deep doesn't have to mean deep tonguing, just deep and passionate. Look deep into his/her eyes, run your fingers through thier hair and down across her cheeks. Also don't just do this before sex. Do it any time, in the middle of the day, on the bus, when you're saying goodbye. If you only kiss passionately when you want sex, your partner may see kissing as a signal that you just want sex, not kissing.
Spend a lot of time exploring kissing - nipping at lips and tongue, cheeks, earlobes, neck, fingers, hands, toes, the whole body.
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Tickle Feast
Monday, June 29, 2009
Ok this one is easy... how do kids play? they tackle and tickle each other. Adults can sex that kind of play up and do just the same. Both have to be ready and into the idea of sex. One of the best hints I can give you is to do this kind of play on a rainy weekend afternoon. Don't try this at night.
What? you say you never have sex except at night? ok fix that. Sex at other times will bring so much fun into your lives. You will have energy for real play. Find ways to get the kids to a babysitter, grandma's or exchange sitting with a friend/neighbour. Tell them what you want the time for...they will be able to relate if they have kids of their own.
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The Massage
Monday, June 29, 2009
A great massage is something you should do without expecting sex. Often sex happens because the partner who is getting the massage needed to relax, get in touch with their body and feel the pleasure of touch. Give your partner a long, soothing, gentle, all over body massage and you'll both be yearning for sex.
Concentrate on the back, neck and shoulders. As well as using your hands to soothingly caress these areas, lay down lots of kisses in between. For seriously good massaging, use massage oil, scented with your favourite fragrance. Its also fantastic for soothing aching muscles and keeping your body feeling good.
Stay away from genital areas initially. Massage the whole body, brush near the genitals if you like, but don't touch them yet. Wait till you know that your lover wants you to touch... ask them or let them ask you. If they fall asleep let them sleep. Next time you will be rewarded for your patience.
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Female Internal Foreplay
Monday, June 29, 2009
Internal??? Fingering a woman in a slow and relaxed way can be very hot. If you are watching her reaction to every inch of her that you are feeling you will discover hidden pleasure areas. The G-Spot is inside her. She may not know where it is herself. She will know what feels good!
The G spot is a zone about two or three inches inside the vagina on the front wall, closest to the clitoris or pubic bone. With the right technique and a bit of practice it can yield lots and lots of pleasure for women including orgasm, multiple orgasms and female ejaculation.
If you give your lover multiple orgasms she will be yours forever. ;o)
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Lingerie
Monday, June 29, 2009
Lingerie comes in all sorts of shapes and sizes. Yes sizes. You can get lingerie for any body shape, including a mans body. For men that are into it they can dress up too. Crossdressing is fun but there are sexy male garments as well.
Have you ever had sex in pantyhose? If you buy some shiny inexpensive pantyhose you can cut or ripe a hole it them to have sex (when the time is right). If you spend some money you can buy some pantyhose that are incrediby sexy!
Purchase something sexy to wear for your partner. Don't stop there, you HAVE to call them and tell them about it. Hopefully they are at work or otherwise busy. Tell them that you found something very sexy and you know they will like it too and you can't wait to wear it for them. Ask them what they are doing after work and then be at home waiting for them, all dressed in your new outfit.
If you can, tell them you are coming to their work and will show up right at closing time. If it is possible have nothing on except your lingerie and a long coat. Surprise them with something sexy and fun. Your lover will not forget your thoughtfulness!
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Costumes
Monday, June 29, 2009
Adult games would not be complete with a costume or two thrown in for some fun. It can be so sexy to get into costume and become someone else for an evening.
Imagine being a Geisha or Gigalo. Imagine taking such good care of yourself and your lover that they would pay for your company.
Maybe you are a sexy pornstar or a persuasive cop. There are lots of ideas of roleplay on this site. Dress the part and find costumes. It is a great way to add play to your sex.
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Foreplay Essentials
Monday, June 29, 2009
Find a place to keep all of your foreplay essentials. Those of you who are very adventurous will have things like floggers, candles, handcuffs and leather in your foreplay collection. Others of us will have feathers, massage oils, edible oils, sensusal music, silky sheets and blind folds.
Add to your collection on a regular basis. Be sure that both of you add to it. Make sure that you keep this collection in a hidden location that only the two of you know about and make sure that you use it!
You can visit adult toy/lingerie stores together. Maybe its an adult game or video, a dildo or vibrator or maybe you will put in something like a penis extender or viagra. What goes in your foreplay collection is your decision!
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Erotic Reading
Monday, June 29, 2009
Make it a habit to read erotica to each other. Even if it is a small bit of something you have read, read it aloud to enjoy it together.
Shop in the erotica section of Chapters and find something that appeals to your lover. Many couples find that they can enjoy things that are naughty or taboo or just off limits by enjoying it thru erotica.
If you are not interested in anal sex but you know your lover is really turned on by it, buy an erotic collection that focuses on that. Be sure to state your limits but tell your lover that you really want them to experience some pleasure from their kink. Remember that many kinks are far more sexy when you are not practicing them but instead fantasizing about them!
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Tell and Fantasy
Monday, June 29, 2009
One of the sexiest foreplay is when you are talking about your fantasies. One fantasy at a time. Make it your fantasy tonight and your lovers another night. Tell your lover something that really turns you on. Make it seem like an erotic adventure or story. Tell the details, try to express why it is so hot to you. You can even just tell a story you read that you really liked.
This kind of fantasy sharing can be a great way to get to know each other. This should be a mainstay of all new couples but even if you are together 10 years, keep checking in with each other with the sharing of fantasies. Fantasies change over time. Do you know what your lover fantasizes about?
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The Surprise
Monday, June 29, 2009
Think of ways to show your love that you are thinking about them. Be romantic with them and you will find that your sex life is much more enhanced because you are closely connected.
Put something sweet or sexy in their car when they are at work or before they leave for work. Put some hershey kisses in their lunch sack. Put a love note in their suit pocket.
You wont be there when they find your thoughtful gift but you will be thought about. Nothing is sweeter then to know your lover is thinking about you!
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Email or Text Messages
Monday, June 29, 2009
Are you new to email or cell phones? This works really well when you start it out of the blue. If you are young and use to this technology its not as naughty, it may be nice, even hot but its not naughty.
Text a sexy message to your lover. He/She will be the only one that will see it. Imagine if you could time it to when they are not alone. Maybe they are in a meeting or work lunch. Maybe they are on the bus. They will have a momentary lapse where they are thinking of you in a sexy way then they will have to force themselves back to reality.
Have fun with this. Use it sparingly and it can be very sexy!
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Fulfilling Sexual Relationship
Monday, June 29, 2009
The essential ingredients for a fulfilling sexual relationship are:
Mutual Intimacy Effective Sexual Stimulation and a Commitment to Sexual Growth and Development. In my opinion, Loving-angles can help couples to achieve all three.
Unlike other sex products Loving-angles has been created for couples to enjoy together. It's not a gadget that you can use alone or on your partner. And unlike sex toys, it's not something that once you've tried it, the novelty's worn off. No, with Loving-angles, at last we have a product that will genuinely help couples to develop and maintain a mutually satisfying and fulfilling sex life.
Most people will tell you that sex is better when you can be open and uninhibited with your partner. Fear and humiliation are not aphrodisiacs (except for a very small percentage of the population!). Communication is the key to creating a trusting and intimate environment where lovers can feel free to be themselves.
Loving-angles helps to build intimate communication by providing a non-threatening and inspiring topic. Talking about and discovering new sexual positions allows couples to get to know themselves and their partners better. This mutual sharing and experimentation strengthens the sexual bond between them and leads to deeper emotional satisfaction.
Loving-angles also helps couples by providing a greater range of sexual positions where eye to eye contact can be maintained and skin contact is optimised.
How to improve sexual stimulation
There are probably 100's of books on the market telling you how you can become a better lover. And nearly all of them will assume that you're young, healthy and in your physical prime. Many of us find our sex lives are limited by our bodies' physical capabilities. You may have an injury or perhaps you're not as fit as you'd like to be because of a health condition or the natural ageing process. Either way, Loving-angles can help you and your partner to discover the sexual position that brings maximum physical pleasure without pain or discomfort. (Remember, if you're unsure about the cause of any physical complaint, you should check with your GP before trying anything new)
Ultimately it is how your bodies fit together as lovers that can make the difference between orgasmic ecstasy and humdrum monotony. For most women, this means a position where the clitoris can be stimulated either by her partner's pubic bone or finger. And for some, a position where the G-spot can also be caressed. Men can experience a range of exquisite sensations depending on the angle of penetration. By using Loving-angles, couples can develop their own unique positions that will ensure their caressing and thrusting is reaching all the right places.
How to encourage sexual growth
For many people, good sex is a matter of quality - not quantity. The external pressures of life leave may couples with little spare time, but Loving-angles can help to ensure that every sexual opportunity is both intimate and erotic.
Loving-angles provides couples with endless opportunities to experiment and enjoy a range of sexual positions - in and out of the bedroom. And it is this variety and novelty that adds the essential erotic spark that keeps sex exciting. When couples make a mutual commitment to develop and expand their sexual repertoire together, they need never fear sexual boredom.
If you're currently experiencing sexual problems in your relationship, you might find it helpful to discuss things through with a professional sexual therapist. You can get help online at www.sextherapyonline.org.uk. Or you can get details of therapists within your area from the British Association of Sexual and Relationship Therapy at www.basrt.org.uk.
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Make Your Sex Sizzle With Foreplay
Monday, June 29, 2009
Make Your Sex Sizzle with Foreplay By Cynthia Perkins, M.Ed. © 2004
The importance of foreplay is often underestimated and minimized or even ridiculed. The informed experienced lover will know that not only is foreplay one of the most passionate ways to sweep his woman off her feet, but it also increases intimacy, develops trust and care, promotes emotional connection, deepens love and has the ability to enhance his satisfaction as well.
First and foremost, adequate foreplay is essential to a woman's satisfaction and her ability to achieve orgasm. Women need extended stimulation to reach optimal arousal. Adequate foreplay consists of at least 15 minutes, but preferably 20 or more. This is very important for couple's to know. Many women have difficulty reaching orgasm or experience dissatisfaction with their sexual adventures and often the only cause of these difficulties is the lack of adequate foreplay. Foreplay is physiologically necessary for women's pleasure, not an unnecessary request she has created to make things more difficult for the male. You can never spend too much time on foreplay. It can only enhance the sexual encounter and the relationship even more.
Foreplay has many other important purposes to keep in mind. It shows your lover that you care about her and her needs. The way you touch your woman indicates to her how you feel about her and the way you feel about her impacts how she will respond to you sexually and how pleasurable the sex will be for her. It promotes emotional connection and deepens intimacy, which are two more necessary components for sex to be satisfying for the woman.
It is not only the female that benefits from foreplay. On a biological level foreplay induces lubrication for the woman and erection for the man. Taking time to sensuously explore and relish one another's bodies can significantly help with male sexual problems such as premature ejaculation or impotence, creating harder erections, increased stamina and more satisfying sex for the male as well. As men grow older they may not get erect by sight alone as they once did in younger years, extended periods of touching, kissing and caressing can provide the necessary stimulation needed for erection. Foreplay also builds passion and generates fire making for a more electrifying sexual adventure for both male and female.
Foreplay can include much more than basic touching, kissing, holding and caressing. It can also consist of words and behavior that will enhance the excitement and passion. In addition to kissing, touching and holding you might try giving her a loving compliment, expressing affectionate feelings or giving her a gift such as flowers or lingerie. Foreplay does not always have to begin immediately preceding the sexual act.
For a very special treat and to really light her fire foreplay that begins in the morning and lasts all day will work even better by producing a loving seduction. The scenario might go something like this: you prepare your lover breakfast or bring her tea and present it to her with a big kiss, before you leave for the day place a sweet love note in a special place for her to find, when you leave for the day hold and kiss her with a deep passionate kiss, then call her later in the day from work and asks how her day is and tell her you love her, or in the call tell her how much you want her and you can't wait to taste her, later that day send her flowers or when you come home from work bring her a beautiful gift, when you come in the door once again she is greeted with hugs and kisses, before dinner you give her a bath and caresses her feet or you take a shower together, after dinner you clean up the kitchen and tell her to go rest, then you join her in the living room and give her a full body massage and spend at least 15 minutes holding, kissing and licking. By this time her body will be aching with desire.
This little dance will reap many rewards for you. No, it's not realistic that you would do all of these activities each time you want to make love, but once in awhile would make her feel real special and make her appreciate you so much. You will dazzle your woman and have her melting in your arms. The loving act would be remembered and generate a reciprocal effect in which she will want to please you and the relationship will grow stronger and deeper.
Sensuous undressing is another powerful form of foreplay that can stimulate and intensify sexual desire. Undress her very slowly with lots of soft gentle kisses on the exposed body parts. Focus on one piece of clothing at time. Look in her eyes while unbuttoning or unzipping. Let her take your shirt off. Let her feel your chest against hers. Hold and caress before moving to more action.
Another trick to prolong satisfaction and build even more desire is that once you have participated in some extended stimulating foreplay and both of you can hardly stand it anymore, then take the foreplay just a little bit further and escalate your hungers to new heights.
As always, communication is the ever-important factor in great sex. If your lover is not meeting your foreplay needs, then you need to speak up and let them know. Tell them what you need or what you would like to try. If speaking the words out loud is too difficult then literally show and guide him. Men, ask your woman what she needs. You can assume that some basics all women will love, but they will also have individual needs. You don't want to do something she doesn't enjoy. The enlightened lovers participation in foreplay is not begrudging or the means to an end, they fully enjoy savoring their woman with long sensuous play and delight in bestowing her with pleasure as much as she enjoys receiving. Sex is more satisfying for both partners. They are astutely aware that all the benefits of foreplay put together are important components that will help keep excitement alive and prevent love from eroding or diminishing, thus creating a stronger more fulfilling relationship in every way.
About the Author
Cynthia Perkins, M.Ed., is a sex/relationship coach and author helping monogamous couples increase intimacy, be better lovers and keep the passion alive. She is also author of the hot new sex guide for couples titled, "The Lovemaking Smorgasbord - A Couple's Menu for Feeding Passion & Fidelity." Subscribe to her FREE Monthly Ezine and get hot sex tips, techniques and secrets guaranteed to keep your fire burning. http://www.smolderingembers.com/
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Foreplay Tips For Couples
Monday, June 29, 2009
Guys are you confused, clumsy, and don't know what to do when it comes to Foreplay? Does your heart drop and you hesitate at the mere mention of Foreplay? If so, then it's time for a lesson in Foreplay!
As many of you have probably found out, most women consider "Foreplay" a very important part of sex. And there is very good reason for this. Our bodies don't react sexually as fast as yours does. We need some warm up time to get into the mood. While each woman is different as far as how much foreplay she requires before she is sexually aroused, studies have found that most women all like the same type of foreplay. So based on that theory, and some of my own experiences as well ;-) I've put together a list of "Foreplay Tips For Couples".
Hugging
This is a great way to start off your sexual romp. Most women love to be hugged. To be held tight by their lover. This gives us a protective feeling and tells us you want to be close to us. It's easy to do, just start by holding your lover close and pressing her body against yours. While hugging her lightly kiss her neck and shoulders.
Petting
While laying down run your hands lightly and softly up and down, exploring the peek and valleys of her body. Some women love to have this done to their neck, shoulders and back. Others, like to have their buttocks gently massaged. And yet others love their breasts softly caressed. This will all depend on where your lover's erogenous zones are. If you're both undressed gently kiss and lick these areas as well. She'll be like putty in your hands, ready to be molded in any way you want.
Kissing
It's important to start off slowly. Just a soft pressing of your mouth against hers. No tongue to start. After a few of these kisses slowly start to push your tongue out just a little bit, hopefully enticing her to open her mouth. As her mouth opens gently slide your tongue in a little further. Then press your lips against hers a bit harder and with a bit more passion. From there move to kissing other parts of her body as well.
By this point your lover should be really turned on. If you both still have your clothes on it's time to start removing them - slowly. Start with her top and bra.
Caressing Her Breasts
Place your hand on her breast. Softly caress it. Use your forefinger and thumb to gently squeeze her nipple. See how erect it is. She is really turned on. Now stop and take a moment to tell her how beautiful she is and how much she is turning you on. Women want to be told this, and now would be the perfect time. Then softly take her nipple into your mouth, run your tongue around it's hardness. Use your hand to softly caress her other breast.
What happens next will depend on you and your lover. But, it's now time to explore her vagina. You can gently place your hands between your lovers legs. If she is still wearing panties gently rub her private area while still kissing her body. Slowly move her panties to the side and gently explore her clitoris. Very lightly rub her clit with your fingers. Or, if you like you could go down on her using your tongue to softly stimulate her clitoris. Either way, that's up to you and your lover.
The important thing to remember about "Foreplay" is that it should be done gradually. Slowly increase the physical and emotional sensitivity. As the arousal mounts you increase the stimulation bit by bit. By following these simple "Foreplay Tips For Couples" you and your partner will have the most erotic, but sensual love making sessions ever.
Happy Foreplay!
Marie Clare
Relationship Consultant & Author
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Foreplay for Advice for Dummies by Katie Rose
Monday, June 29, 2009
I often talk about the importance of foreplay and communication in my blog posts and the articles that I write but someone asked me the other day exactly what constitutes foreplay and it got me thinking.
Foreplay is a big part of communication and vice versa. If your partner is just hopping in bed and going for it you need to be able to communicate either through words or actions what would make the experience more satisfying for both of you.
Foreplay is not necessarily only something that is done in the bedroom - your daily actions play a big part in how you and your mate perceive each other and can affect the vibe of your love life. Constant nagging or appearing disinterested in your partner's interests can leave him feeling underappreciated or ignored. Failing to share the household burden or just give moral support can leave her feeling like you do not cherish her or find her sexy as a person. It takes time and effort every day to tend to a relationship - think of it as foreplay to foreplay.
It is also worth noting that men and women generally need a different kind of foreplay - men tend to respond to more immediate tactile advances while women tend to experience the whole of the relationship as a prelude to intercourse and a couple of bad days can do as much damage to your night of passion as a cold shower.
Sometimes men will need prolonged foreplay to get an erection and some are raring to go at the drop of a hat (or your lingerie). Physical foreplay for men is usually pretty basic. The direct touching of the genitals will often do the trick. If you want to tantalize your man here are some maneuvers to work into your act:
Show me the honey!
Men are very visually driven, so sexy clothing is helpful, but giving him an unobstructed view of that which he desires can be sexier than any lingerie. Perform a slow strip tease or surprise him by serving dinner or drinks in next to nothing.
Steam it up
Run your parted lips over his body and exhale slowly. The warm moist air of your breath will change the temperature of his skin and heighten his arousal.
Who's the Boss?
Seize control of the situation - take charge of the night. Many women would be surprised to know that men like to be taken in passion as much as women. Being sexually aggressive is a sign of a lusty appetite and shows that you're as into things as he is.
Just a Little Touch
Men are especially receptive to tactile stimulation when aroused. Do something different - run silk over his back, make long but gentle scratches up and down his back or drape your hair over his member.
Take a Break
Stimulate him just to the brink and then draw back a little. You do not have to stop your lovemaking, but ease up and put off the reward for a while. This is also a good technique for prolonging an erection.
And for her.....
Women need physical foreplay to become properly lubricated for intercourse. Direct genital touching is not always the best way to get your woman hot and bothered. In fact, making that the last place to visit is often a good technique for arousing her. Let her know in words and actions that you want her, that you find her sexy, that you REALLY need her.
Say Anything
Nothing is more important in foreplay to a woman than feeling like the two of you have a connection. Tell her often that you were thinking about her. When out without her, instead of saying how much fun you had with the guys, tell her it was fine but you missed her. Don't lie and there is no need for flowery Valentine's Day speech, just honest feelings and caring conversation.
Being intimate does not always have to mean having sex. Ask her probing questions and listen to her answers, you might learn something helpful. Strive to give her more than one-word replies when she asks you the same kinds of questions. Confide in her, don't shut her out of your thoughts and feelings. Women like to KNOW the person they are with. Sex in a relationship is a very personal thing and leaves a person feeling vulnerable so needs to have a basis of trust and caring.
Touchy Feely
Make lots of physical contact without being sexual, like holding hands, brushing her hair, giving her short shoulder massages throughout the day or kisses in the hallway as you go about your daily routine. Do anything to make contact without it having to be sexual. She will remember it and crave more touching later.
Kiss This
For most women kissing is an incredible turn on. A woman sees kissing as a form of emotional intimacy. If you attack her with your tongue hanging out she is probably not going to feel very sexy, so start with a brief caressing of lips or some kissed on the neck. Pay attention to how she responds and let it go from there. Try to have a long interval between starting kissing and actually "heavy petting" just like in high school - the anticipation is half of the fun.
Take your time with your foreplay, usually longer stimulation results in heightened sensitivity and sends your senses haywire - leading to explosive orgasm. Breaking routine, exploration, new places, new positions, role playing and letting your lover know what is satisfying you or not are important elements in foreplay.
One final word for both men and women to remember - When in doubt, imitate what your partner is doing, as it is almost always a sign of what he or she likes!
Copyright 2005 Katie Rose Intimates Sexy Costumes and Lingerie
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Katie Rose is the owner of Katie Rose Intimates - a fine lingerie shop featuring fantasy clothing, leather and lace and intimate apparel in sexy, erotic, romantic and unique styles - with special attention for the plus size woman
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15 Hot Tips to Make Your Romance Sizzle by Tommy Cooper
Monday, June 29, 2009
Is your romance with that special someone cooling off? Do you worry that the spark is going to go out? Look no further. Here are 15 hot tips to make your romance sizzle.
1. Use edible paint to create masterpieces on each other's bodies. If you don't have or can't find edible paint, use chocolate syrup or whip cream.
2. If you are looking for action later in the evening, eat a light dinner for a better ability to perform.
3. Create a fantasy box. Cover an old shoe box with white paper and use markers to paint some romantic scenes or hearts on it. You and your partner should write fantasies on slips of paper and put them in the box. When you are both in the mood, draw out a fantasy and make it into a reality.
4. Have your partner close their eyes, or blindfold them and then experiment with sensations. Use a feather, aromatherapy oils or ice to enhance their pleasure. Rub their lips with ice until they are cold and then kiss them with your warm lips. This is very erotic.
5. Go a little crazy and plan a sexual adventure. Make a date when each of you comes prepared for a sexual fantasy. You can dress in costumes or use sex toys to spark the enthusiasm.
6. Set the mood. Use aromatherapy candles and romantic music, or dim the lights and spend time together sipping a glass of wine. Fireplaces are romantic as well. Light a fire and cuddle up on it with your partner and then seek out all of those pleasure spots. Making love before a fire is very romantic.
7. Ladies can wear sexy lingerie - not. Go out to dinner and tell your partner about your bare essentials. If you can give him a peek without allowing others a glimpse, use the situation to your advantage.
8. Put a drop of edible oil in your partner's favorite flavor someplace on your body that you know they will lick. This gives a pleasant surprise and stimulates sensitivity.
9. Take your partner shopping...for sex toys. If you are embarrassed to go into a sex toy shop, do your erotica shopping online. There are a wide variety of sites that offer sex toys that will add romance to any couple's life.
10. Experiment with a vibrator. Each person can use it on the other to find those "pleasure spots." Once you find them, return to them time after time for a sensual lovemaking experience.
11. Delay orgasm. Enjoy the eroticism and sensuality of the sex act itself. When you finally do reach your orgasm, it will be extremely intense and pleasurable.
12. Be sure to take gender into consideration. Women like to be aroused slowly. Partners shouldn't go directly for the clitoris or nipples. Men, on the other hand, have only one area that is extremely sensitive to stimulation; the genitals. To be sure that both partners enjoy the act of lovemaking equally, the woman should provide manual stimulation while the man slowly brings her to arousal.
13. Take the chance and enjoy the thrill of having sex in a forbidden place. Take your partner parking in a secluded area and make love in the car. Lovemaking in dangerous places stimulates both male and female partners.
14. Make eye contact during lovemaking and especially during orgasm. This enhances both the intensity and intimacy of lovemaking.
15. Explore each other's body to find pleasure spots that will send your partner into ecstasy. If you and your partner enjoy oral sex, explore each other's body with your tongues. This can be very sensual to those who enjoy it.
Use your imagination to bring romance and sensuality into your life. Find out what your partner likes best through trial and error, or simply ask them what they like to do in the lovemaking department. You might be surprised at how much your relationship will heat up. Keep it sizzling.
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Tommy Cooper is a writer currently working for www.21erotic.com/
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Playing with toys! (a lesson for men)
Monday, June 29, 2009
Have you ever started with the ladies pleasure? If you are a smart guy you will! Toys are actually a great way to start. If you are playful with her she will be so much more open to sex. Start off with a nice vibrator. You want to get her to the point of not giggling anymore, be persistant. When she is laying back enjoying what you are doing to her, then you know she is putty in your hands!
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Using Toys for Men (a lesson for the ladies)
Monday, June 29, 2009
Ladies if you want to drive your man wild in bed its all about going slow. We know this instinctively, a man that is made to wait longer then he really wants too is a man that keeps coming back for more. Let him take what he wants without any sort of effort and he will not consider you to be worthy of conquest. Interesting words but you need to know this about men or you just wont understand why putting the effort into the tease will help you get your own pleasure and keep him coming back for more!
So how do you do that using toys? Well you need to set it up ahead of time. If you shop in a toystore with him earlier in the day and then tell him to expect some fun play after the party tonight you will be having him thinking about it all evening long. If you play an ongoing game with him where some item, like a cock ring, signifies your desire for him then you can leave it laying around in specific places. Put it on his pillow in the morning and leave for work. Put it on his car seat and leave for work. He will find it when he leaves and will be thinking about you all day. Call him at noon to express your desire for him. When you get him home at night take advantage of his building passion for you!
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10 Romantic Ideas
Monday, June 29, 2009
1. If your partner is going away for a few days, tell her that you are worried about her so you have organized a bodyguard to look after her. Then give her a small teddy bear.
2. Drive to the country, find a grassy hill and lie there with your partner looking up at the clouds. Play the game of looking for shapes in the clouds.
3. When your spouse has has a really long hard day, run a hot bath for him/her. Pour some fragrant bath oil into the tub and gently bathe them from head to toe. Gently towel dry and tuck them into a freshly made bed with only a kiss.
4. Go for a walk on the beach. Trace out the shape of a love heart in the sand. Sit inside the heart and cuddle your partner as you watch the sun go down.
5. If your partner has long hair, take the time to brush it using long slow strokes. This is particularly effective after she has had a shower or when she is getting ready for bed.
6. Organize a professional photo shoot to obtain a portrait of the two of you as a couple. Frame the picture and put it somewhere prominent. Remember to give your partner plenty of notice to get ready.
7. Write notes and leave them where your partner will find them "I thought of you today and it made me smile".
8. Organize a mystery trip for you and your partner. Some travel agents will organize mystery packages where the destination of the trip is kept secret until you are actually on the plane or arrive at the destination.
9, If your partner is going on a trip, pack a small present into the corner of their suitcase that they will find when they are away.
10. If you shower first in the morning, Steam up the bathroom and write a message such as "Kathy loves Pete" on the mirror for your partner to read when he/she uses the bathroom. This also works on car windows when it is cold.
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